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A New Star in the Sky

Look out, there will be carnage.

We are hurting acutely, our star center forward has left the building, and we are yearning for him. This adjustment to a lacklustre life, sans John, will not be an easy one. We are broken.

But we need to remember, in our darkest moments, that someone who contributed so much, and lived so large, can never be gone. He’s everywhere, his spirit is so strong it encompasses all of our senses. His personality was so big it left indelible marks everywhere. We have indents on our hearts and in our minds. Not to mention his beautiful wife and amazing son and daughter; John, thank you for these gifts, these pieces of you.

He lives on, but in a different way.

I’ll get you across the finish line, Dee.

I’ll be the first star you see in the sky every night.

Who else in the world could sing, in the midst of being transferred to palliative care two days ago, On The Road Again? To have the breath, let alone the humour, boggles the mind.

His brother said, I’m sorry for hacking you at hockey. He replied it’s okay, I deserved it. This was all they needed to come to terms with, some tiffs after twenty years on the same hockey team. Between that and some stolen socks, not bad after fifty years together. Many have fared worse.

And that’s as spicy as it gets. No drama, or fences to mend, just pure and simple. Love, the biggest kind imaginable, from every direction you turn, for the greatest person you could imagine knowing.

If we could all be a little more like John, live and love and laugh as much as he did, the world would be a better place. Big shoes to fill, but is that the message here?

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  1. Liz Brownlie
    June 9, 2011 at 3:11 pm

    Dear Deanna,
    I am very sorry for your loss. Obviously your brother was an amazing person. Even in a time of such great pain, you write so incredibly. Your attitude is wonderful. You have been down this road before, you will rely on the strength your brother gave you to get you down it again.
    Sending you a big hug,

  2. Julie Desaulniers
    June 10, 2011 at 4:24 am


    I am so sorry to hear about your brother. He certainly sounds like an inspiration who affected everyone around him in a positive way. Hopefully his inspiration will get you through this difficult time. I’m thinking about you.


  3. June 12, 2011 at 1:11 am

    I’m so sorry to hear about your brother’s passing, Deanna…sending you hugs from the East Coast!


  4. amy usher
    June 13, 2011 at 1:20 am

    I am thinking of you at this time. You articulate the pain, the love and the journey of saying goodbye to a loved one with such poise and perspective. Sending you love and blessings,

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